With relationships, there are many factors that determine how it functions. It’s easy to think that you just ‘click’ with certain people. Those people become your close friends, romantic partners, and favourite colleagues. You just seem to ‘fit.’
Then, there are the people you constantly butt heads with or simply who drain you, who knows why. Well, we do. It’s not because you lack chemistry. You simply have different personalities and worldviews.
Your personality can determine who you get along with (or don’t). Have you ever raved about someone, only to have a friend question you why you like them? You might gravitate towards open minded, big-mouthed people, while they derive energy from softly spoken, down to earth personalities.
While we’re all different and it’s not easy to categorise everyone, there are distinct personality types that we like to call, the four Tick birds.
For example, let’s say you’ve got two Eagles in a relationship or in a team. Being driven by control and wanting to be ‘boss’, these two might create conflict as they compete for notoriety.
Maybe you’re interviewing potential new employees and an Owl walks into the room. They’re going to be wanting concrete information about job facts and figures. A Dove, however, will want to know about the team culture and if they feel a sense of community.
Once you know your bird type, you’ll start to see why people react the way they do (as well as you, too). You can see past someone being stubborn and recognise it’s their Eagle coming out. Or why your Peacock partner refuses to book that holiday because they’re fixated on how much it’ll cost.
There’s no denying, all relationships take work. But if you know yourself first, you can understand the people who energise and fuel you, and those who don’t – to avoid conflicts, communication issues, and have better relationships.
Understanding not only your personality type (by determining your bird type) but also the other person is critical. And it comes back to two critical ingredients for successful relationships – expectations and communication. Talk about what you expect from the other person (and yourself). Make sure those expectations are communicated, so there’s no guessing games.
And with a 75-year study conducted by Harvard University discovering that the number one secret to a fulfilling life are great, dependable relationships.
Good relationships keep us happy. If you don’t understand your personal characteristics and respond to them, it’s next to impossible to appreciate your partner or friends. So, make sure you’re investing your time into yourself first, to find the right relationships.
That’s not to say you should rule out people who don’t resonate or fit with your personality. Rather, it’s good to know how to react in certain situations, so you can avoid conflict and actively change the outcome. Now, that’s an extremely powerful place to be.
Complete Tick’s personality profiling test to find out which bird type you are. Bets are, you’ll have an ah-ha moment. Fill in your contact details and we’ll send you samples of the assessment. Self-awareness is your greatest tool; in whatever environment you find yourself in.