Before you read on, we have one prerequisite – find out which of the four Tick bird types you are. This will make a whole lot of sense, once you know it. And see if you can complete it with your close friends, family and colleagues. The more you can assign a bird type to each person in your life, the better your relationships will be.
See, we all respond differently to pressure and stress. Our personalities affect our natural default modes of behaviour. Let us explain.
The Actor, the Dramatist
Comfort Zone: Confident and friendly
Under Pressure: (Fights) Becomes noisy and dramatic, fights with more bark than bite
Under Stress: Becomes apologetic, friendly and manipulative: “I was only joking”
Conflict Style: Problem solves, “let’s forget it and all be friends.”
The Martyr, the Peacemaker
Comfort Zone: Shy and friendly
Under Pressure: (Flights) Becomes quiet, submissive and indecisive, battles in silence
Under stress: Becomes quietly stubborn – digs in heels: “okay, then do what you want to do”
Conflict Style: Accommodates, “let’s have harmony and keep the peace.”
The Tyrant, the Dominator
Comfort Zone: Confident and cool
Under Pressure: (Fights) Becomes short, bossy and sarcastic, tongue can be razar-sharp that wounds
Under stress: Avoids or ignores the situation or person causing the stress, gets on with other things
Conflict Style: Win/lose, “it’s my way or the highway.”
The Moralist, the Righteous
Comfort Zone: Shy and cool
Under Pressure: (Flights) Becomes critical and withdrawn, quietly uncooperative
Under stress: Goes within, quietly avoids the person or situation causing the stress.
Conflict Style: Avoids, “do what you want to do, but leave me out of it.”
Fascinating isn’t it? So, which one are you? Your mind is probably swimming in memories of various conflicts over time, attributing bird types for each person. That’s the power of the four Tick bird types.
The next time you’re in a difficult situation that involves other people, change gears by talking about the bird types. It’s the perfect conflict diffuser.